The Healing Element of Time

Many of our life lessons that had the greatest effect on us took place in the past but can be remembered as if it had only been yesterday. The better lessons that we learned from and that brought us joy can be classified as treasured memories or happy experiences. Lessons interpreted from painful experiences can be classified as harmful thoughts. Memories and thoughts can create mental images which trigger today’s emotions. In simpler terms, good memories can create uplifting emotions; painful thoughts can create damaging emotions.

I share that from my own personal experiences there have been times in my life that I tried with all my heart to distract negative thoughts by consciously thinking of happy memories and being aware that whatever was haunting me was in my past. It is only when I realized that even though things happened in the past and were over, the emotions were still within me and were dormant. Those harmful thoughts seemed to be anchored to my heart and ready to leap out when I least expected it. My saving grace came when I became aware that I could release the negative thoughts and remove the emotional pain by allowing time to do its special thing. Just like driving a car, we require time to move from one place to another. Time is the vehicle when moving from pain to peace. Time offers us comfort. Time can replace negative emotions with uplifting ones. It is time that will bring us new and happier experiences. Always remember that time is a very precious friend and is there when you need it.

Time offers us a way to allow the past to fade away through reflective moments. A moment is a very short space in time. Imagine the speed of a moment that lasts as fast as a blink of an eye. How many times have we focused on one thing and then blinked only to focus on something else? Allow time that same opportunity to capitalize on the speed of a moment when it comes to the unwanted thoughts.

To enjoy life today, or to live in the now as many will say, is your choice. Take as much time as you want when remembering happy experiences and hopeful wants because they will elevate your emotions to a great place. Allow time only a moment of reflection when uncomfortable emotions bring a fleeting thought to the surface. Your emotions are letting you know that something might need to be addressed at that moment. As that moment of uncertainty passes, blink your eyes a couple times, even take a breath, as you bring yourself back to the present time knowing that today is a good day.

Dare to Jump

by Jackie Madden Haugh

For today’s, article, I am excited to have author Jackie Madden Haugh as this week’s guest writer.  Jackie has published many touching and personal experiences in her weekly column, her website, syndicated blogs, and most recently, in her published book “My Life in a Tutu.”  I am empowered by the words she uses and the feelings they emote as I recognize the similarities with my life story.  Believing that many people may relate to Jackie’s story of one woman’s  journey, read on about her continuous journey guided by her open mind, gentle heart, and ever-present hope filled way of living.  Allow your mind to open with an awareness as to how time and peaceful reflection can create hope and joy in today’s life.

~Karen Smalling /*

Perched at the edge of the world, I stood immobile as the hot afternoon wind licked my ten-year-old back. Looking out over the vastness ahead, it was evident: there was nowhere to go but down.

“Jump stupid,” jeered a long line of slimy guppies, scrambling up the ladder to the twenty-foot tall platform. It was my first time on San Carlos High’s skyscraping diving board, and I was terrified.

Eyes fixed on the smog-filled horizon gently blanketing the San Francisco Bay miles away, I loaded my lungs with air and closed my eyes, praying for a smooth entry (belly flops are never pretty). Then, taking a huge leap of faith, off the plank I stepped. Two seconds later, immersed in bubbles, euphoria wrapped its ecstatic arms around me. I’d conquered a fear, and the result was fantastic. How I wish the rest of my life could have been that easy.

Back in the 1960s, children were raised to have a vision for the life they wanted. Dreams of grandeur were allowed, but there was an underlying expectation that it also come with a healthy paycheck.

Later, as a budding artist in the 1970s, I sold my paintings on the streets of San Francisco with flowers in my hair and handmade embroidered clothing. While I made good money, it wasn’t enough to sustain my apartment. Though my art was constantly admired as a lovely hobby, I was told to never quit the day job. The life of an artist wasn’t lucrative, and success meant paying bills and acquiring possessions.

Today, sitting in my comfortable home of thirty-two years, I find my trees that began as whips planted in our yard have now morphed into profound roots. They’re so deep that it would take not only a jackhammer, but the Jaws of Life to move them, and likewise, me. A life of collecting stuff can do that to a person.

Not long ago, my eldest daughter decided to leave her world of fifteen years behind in Los Angeles. An opportunity arose for her soul to evolve to a higher level, and she wanted to grab it.

With her mother’s approval and encouragement, she gave up an apartment that she loved, all her belongings, and half her wardrobe. Kissing her goodbye at the airport, one-way ticket in hand, Michelle boarded a plane for Bali, return unknown.

Driving away, I began to reevaluate my life and wondered if I were given an opportunity that would ultimately enhance my life, albeit out of my comfort zone, would I do it? I’m afraid I don’t know.

For sixty-one years, I’ve been conditioned to live with opaque blinders as I galloped the road in front of me. Seguing off course didn’t create excitement, but suffocating fear. Sadly, by living in this straight jacket, I’m sure I’ve missed out on some spectacular opportunities presented by the universe because worry of the unknown was paralyzing.

Now, I’m not about to do anything drastic in the near future— I do love my life in Los Altos. Plus, I’m not brave enough to throw everything away on a whim. But if I can leave myself vulnerable to a possibility; an adventure, a new home, a new lifestyle, then perhaps one day I too can hurdle into the abyss spontaneously when the call sings to me.

I know that we only get to do this, life, once in our present form. How fun would it be, even if just for a moment, to allow ourselves to free fall into something wild and crazy? I hear Indonesia loves blondes…

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Wednesday’s Words: Simple Words Become Powerful Statements

In a previous article, I shared the value of how “I am” statements can affect your state of mind and state of being.  Shortly after recognizing the value of “I am”, I realized how the statements I offer to others would also have an effect on them, and boomerang back to me.  Believing that it is the intention behind my words that comes back to me, I try to make a conscious effort to share good words with others.

For today’s Wednesday’s Words article, I will share with you simple statements, obvious words, and know how they might even seem in a child-like way.  This is because as many of us grew up, life became more complex.  Thoughts became deeper and more involved.  Conversations became more complicated because they involved others which meant different emotions, ideas, actions, and reactions between two or more people, making communication less simple and less direct.

Enjoy going back to the earlier time in life, with the statements below.  A time when simple statements had so much power.  Then find somebody to say them to and watch how powerful your words really are.

  1. I like you.
  2. You are kind.
  3. I thank you.
  4. I love you.
  5. You are helpful.
  6. You are smart.
  7. I need you.
  8. You can do it.
  9. Come with me.
  10. Think about it.
  11. We can be happy.
  12. Let’s try again.
  13. Stay hopeful.
  14. Never give up.
  15. I am here for you.
  16. Stop worrying.
  17. Feel good.
  18. All is fine.
  19. You matter.
  20. Believe in yourself.
  21. You are important.
  22. You are my family.
  23. I am your friend.
  24. Have faith.
  25. Trust me.

Statements, such as these, have allowed me to create better communication between me and my family, friends, coworkers, and many others.  Words of comfort, hope, love, and gratitude are powerful words that effect thoughts, emotions, and relationships. Knowing this and remembering that whatever words I choose will come back to me in some way, I choose to use the better words.  Join me, together we can start a movement to use simple statements with great intentions.

Life as a Card Game

When I was a young girl, I had imagined that when I was an adult that my life would be like a dream, living a carefree life and enjoying only the best adventures.  Even at a young age, happiness meant being in control of my life, surrounded by loved ones, with a healthy income providing me with all the comforts I could ever want.

It was much later in life when I finally understood that some plans and experiences might turn out differently.  Some because I changed my mind along the way, and some plans effected by other people’s decisions, such as when I went to the office one morning only to learn it was my last day with the firm.

With a gentle heart, I can look back at my youthful dreams and innocence, knowing how those dreams had sent me forward, but life itself had allowed me to take advantage of my so-called shifts.  For instance,  instead of sitting in the office going over contracts, I am sitting here today, at my home, writing a daily article for a website I designed.   This was created by my desire to write and share how even when it seemed that the deck was stacked against me, life gets better.  I am the player, and it is up to me on how I play out the hand which I was dealt.

That younger version of me may have had bigger and simpler dreams, but she was too young to understand how life develops over time with unexpected changes, new interests, and opportunities.  The unexpected game changes in my life encourage me to take control by choosing the cards to keep, exchanging the ones I no longer need, and know how the next card which life deals me may be the card that changes my life.

Today, I end my writing with words from spiritual leader Sri Sathya Sai Baba.

“Life is a challenge, meet it!
Life is a dream, realize it!
Life is a game, play it!
Life is Love, enjoy it!”

Thank you for my Peace and Quiet

by Jacki Janetzki

Today’s article has been contributed by guest author Jacki Janetzki educating the world about the Law of Attraction.  Jacki is passionate about empowering people to become conscious, deliberate creators, and her purpose in life is to teach others how to use the Law of Attraction to their own advantage so that they can be inspired and empowered to experience the joy of designing, creating, and living their ideal life.

~Karen Smalling /*

The following story is a perfect example of how all of us, as human beings, encompass energy which draws people, events, and circumstances into our lives like a magnet. Magical outcomes occur when we purposefully decide to pay particular attention to the things we desire to create for ourselves in a FEEL GOOD way. This is the Art of Deliberate Creation – deliberately feeling good while using the Law of Attraction (like attracts like) to attract the things your heart desires.

Every Wednesday morning, after the gym, I take myself to a café for lunch and write in my gratitude journal while waiting for my meal to arrive. Then, after I’ve eaten, I enjoy spending the afternoon sitting with my computer and writing in the restaurant until it’s time to collect my children from school.

One particular day, I was in the zone, happily writing away when two ladies sat down at the table beside me and commenced a disempowering conversation. All I could hear was them criticizing, condemning, and complaining about their lives and the people in them.

I am a Deliberate Creator with the Power to decide to choose to ask for something different.
I found that I kept letting their conversation distract me from my work and tolerated, resented, and suffered through their whinging for an hour until it dawned on me that I’m a Deliberate Creator who gets to decide and choose to ask for something different whenever I’ve had enough of the situation I find myself in, or if other people’s energy is dragging me down.

So I knew what I didn’t want.
I didn’t want to feel like I was being held hostage in a disharmonious environment.

If I didn’t want that, then what did I want instead?
 “Thank you for my peace and quiet” was the new intention I set and this felt a lot better than the “I hate having to listen to your negativity” perspective that I’d been previously focusing on and felt trapped in.

Get clear on your intention.
Shortly, after I got clear on my intention, the two “negative ladies” exited the restaurant and a solo occupant took their table.

The Universe delivered exactly what I asked for.
The next occupant at that table was a quiet, writer type who pulled out her computer and commenced working in silence … just like me!  WOW!  “Thank you for my peace and quiet.”  I was so happy and grateful I had remembered to articulate and ask for what I actually wanted. “Thank you so much for delivering my desire of peace and quiet to me.”

Do you, like me, sometimes forget that you are the Master of Your Destiny and it’s YOU who gets to choose the circumstances, surroundings, and environment that you live in?

You are the Master of Your Destiny and it’s YOU who gets to choose the circumstances, surroundings and environment that you live in.
I could have asked for change sooner, but got caught up in the drama for a bit too long, until I’d finally had enough of the situation I found myself in and felt bad enough to want to choose to experience change.

When you feel bad enough, you’ll want to choose to experience change.
Are there any circumstances or situations in your life that you would like to change?

Life Change always starts with Empowered Thinking first.
Decide to transform the circumstances you’re dissatisfied with … and remember … to change your life, you need to start with Empowered Thinking first.

When you know what you don’t want, it’s easy to clarify what you do want.
Just look for the opposite feeling, circumstances and situations you would rather instead …

And decide to place your entire focus on your new, desired reality

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My Magical Manifesting Minutes

Imagine how magical life would seem if we could simply think about finding joy in all areas of our lives, without even whispering our desires out loud to others, and all that we imagined could take place.   Wouldn’t that be a great way to live? This is how a fairy tale might begin, but with traditional fairy tales, characters must learn to overcome challenges, accept losses, and often heal from pain inflicted by loved ones before living ‘happily ever after.’  If you had a choice, would you live your life that way? When I realized that the life I had been living started out magical and, somewhere along the line challenges, losses, and pain had been added, I knew I had done something wrong.

I reasoned with myself that if I could live a life of joy then there would be only joy, meaning I would avoid adding drama to my life.  Then, logic would be that if I answered the first question with “yes” (it would be great to live this way) then the second question would seize to exist.

Hmmm! I love being logical which is how I found a way, much later in life,  to turn back time and accept that my life was meant to be lived joyfully which would allow me to avoid the pitfalls others may presume are ‘as a part of life.’

You can choose to share my thoughts and live with joy as your purpose NOW

You may have been introduced to making wishes as a child on a star, on birthday cakes, whispered to Santa Claus, when the clock shows 11:11, and even on a loose eyelash.  There is a good chance that as you grew up, you may have noticed how wishes for you turned into wishes centered around others, or less “magical” such as your health or finances.  TAKE BACK YOUR POWER! Remember whatever you want/desire/wish or ask for is what you get.  Live your life for you!

NOTE:  It is not selfish to want something for myself or to put my desires before others.  It is self-love that you are giving yourself.  People often make unnecessary sacrifices for others, including even birthday wishes on their special holy-day, and direct their good thought on a loved one’s wants or needs.  I would rather share my way of self-love and teach others to empower themselves to do the same.  This way we can all be happy.  It might help to remember that each of us defines a-happy-life in different ways, meaning  your generous wish might not offer the effect you had intended.

How I add magical manifesting minutes to my day

There are times during the day when I feel really good, and times when I may need to rest, eat something, or remove some disturbing thoughts from my mind and not in the best spirits of that day.  It is during the happier times, that my ability to manifest is strongest.  I choose my happy times to create more joy in my life.

The word manifest, in this example, can be defined as “showing up” in my life.  Without needing to understand it, and having unknowingly for years possessed and used my power to manifest, I now trust what I am about to tell you which works for me, and can work for you if you open your mind to it.

Does it matter how or why it works?  What happens if by questioning it, you lose your power because the answer may be blind faith which is the magic-wand to our hearts desires?  This is why I am sharing my 2-Minute Manifest exercise with you with no reason why it works.


When I feel good and find myself smiling about a thought or talking faster because I am excited by something I did, heard, or am about to do THAT is when I know it is time for a 2-minute pause from my daily activities.


Wherever I am, I stop talking to others, ignore my cell phone, and take a breath or two to clear my mind.  If I am at a place where I can close my eyes, I will sit quietly and focus on my thoughts.  Often though, I am busy and need to excuse myself from a conversation, even when in the car with others.  I explain that I need a moment to think about something and withdraw from the conversation.


What I do next might surprise you.  I do not ask for material items, but know that you can.  I do not ask for specific adventures or experiences which I know I could.  Instead, I ask that I am able to find joy and hope with an area of my life that I recognize could be better.  This allows so many things to come into my life now, without placing any limitations on whatever comes my way.  Because there are great things available now, while some great things need time and will make tomorrow better.

It is that simple.

I take time throughout the day to redirect my thoughts to create more happy thoughts.  By being aware of a happy moment, and knowing I can use that feeling to power up more happy moments, it can only work in your best interest.  And, the more happiness you create, the more happiness awaits you.

Visit tomorrow when guest writer JACKI JANETZKY
shares more about manifesting and the Law of Attraction

Wednesday’s Words: I AM – The Dynamic Duo

If I could think of the most powerful words that have changed my life, the top of the list would have to be I am.  These two words allow me to open my mind ‘to be’ in whatever state I want to exist as when I accept and acknowledge  who I am.

As this is a Wednesday’s Words theme writing, I share with you 100 I am affirmations which help me at different times of my days, of my life.  I say different versions during challenging times, mindful times, and found them comforting before drifting off to sleep.

I am lovable.  I am romantic.  I am energetic.  I am hopeful.  I am studious.  I am affluent.  I am gentle.  I am positive.  I am determined.  I am loyal.  I am free.  I am passionate.  I am thoughtful.  I am flirty.  I am vibrant.  I am sincere.  I am wise.  I am generous.  I am open-minded.  I am helpful.  I am divine.  I am inviting.  I am sharp.  I am adorable.  I am strong.  I am bighearted.  I am independent.  I am soulful.  I am skillful.  I am Lively.  I am successful.  I am compassionate.  I am wealthy.  I am silly.  I am Patient.  I am friendly.  I am masterful.  I am gregarious.  I am cute.  I am productive.  I am graceful.  I am fit.  I am assertive.  I am sweet.  I am powerful.  I am kind.  I am intelligent.  I am adventurous.  I am truthful.  I am brave.  I am worthy.  I am respectable.  I am confident.  I am thankful.  I am smart.  I am optimistic.  I am honest.  I am happy.  I am affectionate.  I am young.  I am natural.  I am attractive.  I am peaceful.  I am abundant.  I am forgiving.  I am prosperous.  I am imaginative.  I am good.  I am complete.  I am whole.  I am healthy.  I am neighborly.  I am faithful.  I am bright.  I am loving.  I am desirable.  I am organized.  I am spontaneous.  I am creative.  I am witty.  I am talented.  I am fun.  I am light.  I am wealthy.  I am comfortable.  I am intuitive.  I am playful.  I am active.  I am safe.  I am beautiful.  I am grateful.  I am protected.  I am lovely.  I am personable.  I am nurturing.  I am caring.  I am gentle.  I am brilliant.  I am magnificent.  I am life.

Writing out the 100 I am statements above has effected me even now in a very positive way.  I hope you will take time to read through them and connect with the ones, or all of them, that speaks to you.   Keep your own mental list available and keep it growing as to what is important to you knowing how your words will have an even bigger effect on you.

Following are examples of more detailed statements that I say.  How many words you use is not important, all you need to do is take ownership of how magnificent you are are, even if you have forgotten this over the years.

  • I am happy in all areas of my life.
  • I am worthy to be loved by somebody who is just right for me.
  • I am able to find faith where I once struggled.
  • I am fortunate to know that words are gifts when I use them for love, hope, and joy.
  • I am the power in my world.

The secret, as I understand it, is that by choosing words which help me to feel better and words that open my mind to the unlimited possibilities of who I am.  These two words together, as I am, are all I need to be my strongest advocate with creating today’s life filled with love, hope, and joy.

***I will be taking some time to enjoy the summer.  Come back on July 11th when I will begin weekly posts on Mondays.  Have a great summer.***

Using Mindfulness to take back your power

by Kate Zourkas

Today’s article has been contributed by guest writer and author Kate Zourkas.   Having been introduced to Kate, through her writing, I wanted to share Kate’s voice on the subject of self-empowerment.  As a yoga ‘teacher’ and mindfulness advocate in the corporate world, and also with the public, Kate is both an educator and motivational guide offering an awareness of the many benefits of what it means to be mindful.  Her article includes great tips and closes with a short but effective meditation on Inner Power.

~Karen Smalling /*

We all have an immense amount of inner power within us, and I think why it is then that some of us can feel so powerless in so many different situations? How and why do we give up our inner power?  And when we feel like we have lost our inner power, how do we reclaim it?

Whether you call it inner power, personal power or empowerment, we all have it, and I am increasingly finding how the lack of inner power is causing of a lot of frustration or unhappiness. In many recent conversations, I have found that the driving force behind people’s issues is that they have unconsciously given up their personal power or they have become submissive to other people’s power.

I am a yoga teacher, and in yoga, we talk a lot about owning your own space and how important it is as a yoga teacher to hold the space when you are teaching a class. I have taken this concept to all areas of my life; for example, I am an expert at work, I am in expert in yoga, mindfulness and meditation and I am an expert in my family. In each of these roles, I hold my space and to me this means reinforcing my inner power.

How mindfulness can help

We all know those really calm and wise people who at the same time are really powerful, their inner power radiates from them. What do they do differently? I have listed some tips below on how YOU can be mindful and reclaim your inner power so that it can radiate from you too. You are so powerful and mindfulness can help you unlock this power and help you block out outside noise so that you can just focus on yourself and your own power. Tips include:

Be conscious of your physical presence – Stand tall, strong and confidence. Be aware of your physical presence and posture. This will help you feel empowered and boost your self-confidence. Not only will this make you feel good but people will also take notice.

Raise awareness of your own inner power – Be aware of your inner power and if you feel like you have been disempowered – take it back! Set the intention to take back your power and more importantly GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION TO BE POWERFUL.

Set clear boundaries – Set boundaries in your life. If you haven’t done this yet, then start. Be assertive about your own personal boundaries, and don’t feel that you need to push your own boundaries to make others happy (especially if this makes you unhappy in the process).

Lead by example – You can’t control other people, but you can lead yourself, and I have found leading by example really empowering.  There is a lot of strength in backing yourself and leading by example will bring you a lot of credibility and awareness of your own actions.

Choose you battles – Don’t try and fight every battle, choose your battles wisely. This can be very empowering as you are choosing where you focus your energy. Some things can just be let go of without having to fight, so choose to go with the flow, and don’t take on all the battles in your life. Also, remove yourself from other people’s battles (they have their own lessons, as do you!).

Being aware of your power gives you a sense of empowerment. Nobody owns your power, so don’t let anyone take it from you. Stand strong and feel your own sense of power and hold your own space. You are worthy and powerful. Believe in yourself.



  1. Sit or lie down in a comfortable position
  2. Close your eyes, feel your eyes soften, and loosen your jaw (we hold a lot of stress in the jaw)
  3. Take 3 deep breaths and feel yourself settling into your body
  4. Choose one or all of these and repeat over in your mind:
    • I am worthy of my power
    • I take ownership of my power
    • I give myself permission to be powerful
    • Using my inner power helps me to be kind to myself
    • Using my inner power helps me to be kind to others
  5. In your own time, bring your attention back to your breath and observe how your body is feeling and observe how your mind is feeling.
  6. Gently bring awareness back into your physical body and open your eyes.

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The Wonder of Words

Believing that most people communicate with words before actions, reactions, and any other way of sharing messages, this might be an interesting topic.

For today’s writing, I decided to give you a little taste of the different ideas that I will share hoping that by pointing out what could be considered obvious can remind me to watch my words, and offer you another viewpoint on how you may speak or think.

My general viewpoint is that words are the conscious way of thinking.  Period.  It is our thoughts that create ideas.  It is our imagination which designs our dreams to take flight.  This would mean that the words we string together in our thoughts and the words we choose to speak with others can be considered the foundation to how we live our lives.

The areas that I will share will include

  • Power Words
  • Choosing Your Definitions
  • Replacing Words
  • Words to Avoid
  • Soothing Words
  • Words that Nullify Statements
  • Words to Ignore from Others
  • Words of Self Wisdom
  • Word of the Day Usage
  • Nonsense & Whimsical Word Power
  • The Value of Muted Words
  • Emotional Statements
  • Empowering Affirmations
  • Much Needed Self-Talk

The list goes on because every single category that I have listed can be addressed every hour with no effort once you are aware of the wonder of words.

Over time, my writing for Wednesday may become lists of words, definitions of words, examples of words in sentences, or a mish-mash (nice nonsense word) of different presentations or templates.  My goal is to write as little as possible on Wednesdays sharing how the value of words can be recognized without deep or conscious thoughts needed.

Today’s share is simply that sometimes the simplest of words have the strongest effect on a thought or statement.  I will let you ponder that, by giving you a hint that two words make a powerful statement.  For example, words without thought, will end this writing.

The End