Every day we are faced with choices. As children, the choices we made were easy and were based on one simple fact that was which choice would be more fun for me? Did we want to play outside or play inside? Did we feel like watching Batman or Spiderman? Did we want a vanilla ice cream cone or chocolate? We made our choices quickly and easily. For those rare occasions when we needed some inner guidance, we could always depend on a great decision maker and turn to our Eeny-Meeny-Miny-Moe finger. Besides the speed and commitment to our choices, we never ever thought about the other thing that we did not choose. We had known, without a doubt, that we had made our best choice and expected only great results.
As time passed, we went from making confidant decisions to wavering with our decisions based on what other people thought. Over time, it was our peers, our parents, and the media that guided our choices. Fast forward to full-blown adulthood where choices may seem more complicated. We now have to factor in responsibilities that effect not only ourselves, but others. For those decisions, remember that a moral obligation is an important and helpful factor which can guide you to make the best decisions for all involved.
As adults, decisions are often influenced by recognizing the bad choices and no longer based on what would be good for us. We have adopted an elimination-approach as our inner guidance. Think about it. Isn’t that what we are doing when we go through the pro/con list in our heads? Did you think you were picking the pros? Look back and realize that most likely you made decisions based on whichever choice offered less cons.
Who wants to make decisions that way? Not me. I want to have choices with only great results. Join me as we reclaim our individual power by recognizing only great options. Here are some examples of win/win choices to help you redefine what good options look like:
• Buy a car, lease a car or do I even want a car?
• Enjoy going on a vacation or relax at home with no responsibilities on a stay-cation?
• Keep your current job and make it great or find another job with unlimited possibilities?
• Save money or spend money?
• Earn more money or save money?
• Movies with buttered popcorn or DVD at home with microwave popcorn?
• Exercise more or eat less?
• Eat more and exercise less?
You can only make a good choice when you can see all options as good. The best way to feel good about your choices is to think like a child which means enjoy your decision without second-guessing yourself. By allowing moral obligation to factor in on your decisions, you will make the right decision. And, my personal belief is that the biggest factor with making good choices is to listen to your inner voice. This voice speaks to you through your emotions and will guide you to a happier life. I ask you…is there any other choice?